- Regularly answer the question “how are you?” with the response: “I’m SOOO busy!”1,
- Lack clear boundaries between your work life and your personal life,
- Have forgotten what it feels like to truly relax your body and experience a quiet mind,
- Are starting to experience some symptoms of burnout,
- Consistently put yourself last while taking care of everyone else,
Then you’ve come to the right place. I’d like to show you how you can increase your stress resilience to better work with life’s challenges.
“Resilience is the process of adapting well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats or significant sources of stress — such as family and relationship problems, serious health problems or workplace and financial stressors. It means ‘bouncing back’ from difficult experiences.” (APA)
Why I Care About Your Stress Resilience
I care about helping you increase your stress resilience because I know firsthand what it feels like to have no time for yourself and think you have no choice but to “power through” your days.
Back in 2011, when I was a full-time manager at a high-tech company near Boston, it was a luxury to eat lunch at my desk while catching up on all the emails and actual work that piled up while I was attending back-to-back meetings. “Lunch time” wasn’t respected as time to nourish oneself, and work went on in a continuous stream, day after day, month after month, year after year. No one questioned how this lack of space for basic human needs was affecting all of us physically, mentally, or emotionally. But I started to, because I felt like I was going to suffocate. While trying to escape the seemingly continuous cycle of stress and overwhelm, I tried many different tactics to “manage” and “cope” with stress, but nothing seemed to work.
I finally decided I couldn’t change myself while I stayed in that environment. I left and started my own health and wellness practice. But as you might imagine, being an entrepreneur comes with its own set of stressors, and the work is still endless if one doesn’t know how it could be different, or how to make it so!
After much self-inquiry, I finally learned some important lessons, such as how closely being “productive” was tied into my sense of self-worth. I discovered the truth about why I was always busy: I could avoid certain uncomfortable feelings. While exploring these beliefs, I incorporated quick, natural, and easy self-care practices throughout my day so I had some breathing space and didn’t collapse into a heap at night. I also learned how to set better boundaries, say “no” without feeling guilty, and handle various challenging situations without all my former drama and upset.
I continue to consult for a software startup near Boston, but things are different this time around. Your situation may be different, but I understand the “life” of both the high-level professional and the entrepreneur, and I want to help you experience a different, more easeful way of living!
Ways To Improve Your Stress Situation
Living in a state of contentment requires shifting your mindset. Among other things, it involves recognizing all the options available to you, letting go of limiting beliefs, reducing negative self-talk, and making choices that may currently feel out of your comfort zone. You need new information and to take the small steps toward retraining your mind-body system that enable you to create an easier life. Here are some resources that will get you on the path to better stress resilience:
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Why Stress Resilience is Critical for Optimal Health & Wellness
“Burnout is what happens when you try to avoid being human for too long.” — Michael Gungor
Sometimes it seems like we thrive in our hectic work and home environments, but the truth is that if we don’t eventually find some space in which we can fulfill our very basic and very real human needs, our mind-body system will break down and force us to stop. If you’re trapped in a continuous cycle of stress and feeling overwhelmed, your health IS suffering (with or without your awareness).
Some signals of burnout include2:
- reduced productivity and worsening performance reviews (even though you’re working so hard!)
- reduced ability to problem-solve and generate creative new ideas
- weight-gain despite efforts to eat “healthy”
- poor sleep, fatigue, exhaustion and/or energy dips throughout the day
- disintegration of relationships inside and outside the office
- high blood pressure, heart disease, heart attack, or stroke
- headaches, stiff muscles, back aches3,
- depression, anxiety, or impaired memory4
In our culture, working hard and being busy is often viewed as a status symbol: it means we are “successful.” Yet you’re so much MORE than what you do; reconnecting with your humanity will not only improve your health, but it will help you become a more conscious, active, and connected participant in ALL areas of your life.
What People Are Saying
Kali has helped me to remember that without my own self-care, I am of no use to others. She is supportive and very practical. I never feel like I have to buy a load of products to get the benefits from her ideas. I can’t recommend her enough if you need a little support in how to take better care of yourself.
I started seeing Kali because my life was not working for me and I developed several health issues. She has been a great help in helping me look at the things that have held me back. I am making progress in major life style changes with her help and with the help of those professionals she has recommended. And she has never lost patience with my sometimes slow progress – my fault, not hers. She is a caring and kind guide and I highly recommend her.
I always felt comfortable even when I was pushed past my comfort zone. It feels so wonderful to continue to be amazed at how just a few moves and breathing can change your life, how you feel, increase your self-esteem, how you carry yourself, how you feel inside … centered.
She knew just how to challenge me to push myself while also taking the time to understand my particular struggles and helping me figure out solutions that worked for me (they weren’t just “check the box” solutions). I appreciated her help so much as I was seeing her on a regular basis, but I appreciate it even more a year later. Here’s why: looking back, I now see that Kali was the spark I needed to slowly but steadily develop a personalized self-care regimen that truly works for me.