I must say I was pretty surprised not to find “moving” on the list of the 10 most stressful life events. And when you factor in a cross-country move with a significant other and an animal, I’d expect it to at least be in there!

When I moved to Austin at the end of 2013, I was lucky. I was by myself, felt I had nothing to lose, and had someone there ready to accept me (and my stuff) with open arms and empty drawers. Although I loved the weather, my teaching gigs, my students and my clients, the energy and atmosphere of the South just doesn’t work for me, and it’s almost immediately noticeable when I’m back in Boston. So last week, I flew home with 2 big and 2 small suitcases, received by a gracious friend and her equally gracious beau, and hit the ground running on the apartment-hunt front. I can feel the almost 24-like timer in the corner of my screen, counting down the days I have to find something that’s do-able for my family for a year.

I’d love to say that being a Mind-body Wellness Consultant means I’ve taken GREAT care of myself. But honestly, it’s been quite hard.

I was up way too late the night of arrival, busy catching up, socializing, and then wound so tight sleep eluded me. The following 2-3 days were a frantic pile of running around–renting a car until mine arrived, looking at places I’d already lined up, texting / emailing / calling multiple people trying to show me places, etc. I ran around from mid-morning to early evening, and then last night had an agonizing decision to make over two “doable” but “not quite right” places I finally turned down, when 3 tosses of the coin came up tails and that was clearly the answer from the Universe. Talk about stress.

But I will recognize and even give myself some “kudos” (wow, that word hasn’t come up in a few years ;-)! Even as I was driving around–which BTW is SO SO much easier here than in Austin!–I became AWARE that I wasn’t hydrated; that I was hungry; that I was tired. When I NOTICED these things, I ACTED to make better choices in the next moments. I stopped at Whole Foods for a lunch break. I got a quinoa salad thing (at Starbucks of all places!) in the morning and put it in my lunch sack for later…I bought bottles of water and healthy GF nutrition bars. I even took my pile of supplements with me in a little plastic baggie–and I haven’t yet missed a dose. I also haven’t missed a day of my morning yoga practice, because I KNOW how much I need it.

This morning was more of the same, but after I turned in the rental car, I’m in, no where to go and nothing to do. In some ways, having this self-care day is exactly what I needed. I’m ensconced in tea and “Tuesdays with Morrie” (which I started on the plane and just finished). I had my first “meal” this morning around 11 o’clock: rotisserie chicken, basmati rice, and green beans, all smothered in olive oil. Ah…so soothing. When realtors text me, “I’m sorry, I can’t see anything until tomorrow.” And that’s true. For today, I’m hanging out in the eye of the storm. Trying to find some bit of stability, peace, and comfort with everything whirling around me.

What have you done to find some peace and stillness when everything around you is in upheaval? Do you NOTICE and CHANGE your behavior before it’s too late and you’re completely spent? I’d love to hear YOUR thoughts and advice!


Staying AWARE; the eye of the storm
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4 thoughts on “Staying AWARE; the eye of the storm

  • May 10, 2017 at 3:15 pm
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    Kali: Moving definitely makes my “top 10” list. When I’m not too busy letting life overwhelm me (ahem…) I practice pranayama, which often makes things seem better and sometimes makes things feel really fantastic!

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    • May 10, 2017 at 3:18 pm
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      Good to hear from you Sonya! Yes, pranayama is a very good practice. I need to do it “outside” of my morning yoga routine. And I laugh a little because I found a yoga class on TV earlier and just HEARING the teacher lead a 3:3:6:1 breath made me feel better. 🙂

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  • May 10, 2017 at 3:24 pm
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    Moving is so stressful- I also can’t believe it’s not up there with losing a job. Just the idea of decluttering gives me a panic attack and when we eventually move, we will have tons and tons of stuff to get rid of. Sounds like you’ve been better at managing your possessions as well as your health. Good Luck on the apartment hunt and settling in.

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    • May 10, 2017 at 3:32 pm
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      I couldn’t believe it either! Fortunately I’m pretty good at de-cluttering; I’m still surprised at how much we had even after that. Not sure if you remember that show on TLC called “Clean Sweep?” They did piles for Keep / Sell / Trash. And now there are lovely things like Freecycle.org, which can really help out people who need things! When you eventually move let me know and I’d be happy to help you deal with the panic–there are some good breathing techniques I can show you…. Thank you again for all your support and your comments!

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